Polyamory as the new monogamy
- Post by: Psyche General
- 23.07.2024.
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Sažetak
Spoznaje o intimnim odnosima prvenstveno proizlaze iz istraživanja monogamnih veza unatoč tome što alternativni oblici veza postaju sve popularniji izbor, osobito među mladima. Sporazumno nemonogamne veze (eng. consensually non-monogamous relationships, CNM) sve češće zamjenjuju monogamiju. CNM je krovni termin koji obuhvaća tri vrste odnosa (swinganje, otvorene veze i poliamoriju) u kojima postoji eksplicitan dogovor između partnera o tome da mogu imati dodatne seksualne i/ili romantične
partnere. Između različitih vrsta odnosa koji uključuju seksualnu otvorenost, ali ne nužno
i romantičnu povezanost s drugim partnerima, poliamorija se izdvaja jer postoji istovremena
emocionalna, romantična i intimna povezanost s više partnera. Iako neki poliamoriju doživljavaju korisnom i prihvatljivom, drugi je smatraju perverznom, amoralnom i neprivlačnom te će se u radu detaljnije razraditi najčešće zablude povezane s poliamornim odnosima. Nadalje, proučit će se karakteristike osoba sklonih upuštanju u poliamoriju, pri čemu su to češće muškarci u odnosu na žene te pripadnici seksualnih manjina u usporedbi s heteroseksualnim osobama. Osim toga, u poliamoriji može postojati hijerarhijski poredak partnera, stoga je korisno istražiti razlike između primarnih i sekundarnih partnera te usporediti različite konfiguracije veza. U konačnici, raspravit će se prednosti i teškoće
vezane uz poliamorne odnose.
Ključne riječi: CNM, monogamija, hijerarhijska poliamorija, nehijerarhijska poliamorija
Abstract
Knowledge about intimate relationships stems primarily from research on monogamous relationships, even though alternative forms of intimate relationships are becoming increasingly popular, especially among younger people. Consensual non-monogamous relationships (CNMs) are challenging traditional views of relationships based upon monogamy. CNM is an umbrella term for three types of relationships (swinging, open
relationships, and polyamory) in which partners agree to have additional sexual and/or romantic partners. Between different types of relationships that include sexual openness, but not necessarily a romantic relationship with other partners, polyamory stands out because there is a simultaneous emotional, romantic, and loving bond with multiple partners. Although some perceive polyamory as valid, useful, and acceptable, others consider it perverse, immoral, and unattractive. Thus, this paper will consider the most common misconceptions about polyamorous relationships. Furthermore, the characteristics of people who are more prone to polyamory will be explored, with men being involved more often than women and sexual minorities more often than heterosexual people in polyamorous relationships. In addition, there may be a ranking of partners in polyamory, so it is useful to explore the differences between primary and secondary partners and compare different relationship configurations. Ultimately, the advantages and difficulties of polyamory will be discussed.
Keywords: CNM, monogamy, hierarchical polyamory, non-hierarchical polyamory